How to Stay Body Positive

How to Stay Body Positive

I was watching a YouTube video the other day, and in the video the YouTuber stated her weight. I looked through the comments and found many young girls saying things such as: “I’m only 14 and I weigh more than her” and asking if that was okay or if they were too big.

I replied to as many comments as I could, telling the girls that it isn’t healthy to compare yourself to others because every body is unique, and as long as you are healthy and happy it doesn’t matter what you weigh. But I know this message is easy to say and not quite as easy to believe.

I have definitely had my fair share of anxiety about the way my body looks, but I do feel I have learned some helpful tricks over the years to remain more body positive. Hopefully some of these tips will help those of you who might be struggling.

Stop comparing yourself to others

As I told the young girls commenting on the YouTube video, it does no good to judge yourself based on the standard others have set. Not only does it inevitably lead to negative thoughts, but it is not productive or logical. Every single person on this planet has a different body, and no matter how hard you try, yours will never look exactly like someone else’s, and you will be left feeling disappointed if you constantly covet another’s body type.

Do things that make you feel strong, healthy and confident

The healthier alternative to comparing yourself to others is to focus on your own mind and body, and do things that make you feel good. For me this includes taking a yoga class every week, going on walks at least three times a week, hiking in the greenbelt at least once a month, and going shopping or dressing up every once in a while to feel more confident.

Be nice to yourself

Next time you catch yourself criticizing your appearance, turn your thoughts to what you love about yourself instead. Whenever I look at myself in the mirror, I try to think of something positive instead of immediately jumping to something negative. You can even pretend you’re complimenting someone else instead of yourself, if that helps! It’s much easier for us to find the beauty in others, for whatever reason.

Keep track of the compliments you receive from others

Speaking of complimenting others, another good trick is to take note of the compliments you receive, and be sure to repeat them to yourself when you’re feeling down. Whether it’s that you have nice nails (something one of my coworkers always tells me), or maybe even just that someone liked your outfit one day. Reminding ourselves of how others see us is very helpful when trying to stay body positive!.

I hope this helped you, or just added a little positivity to your Sunday night! Try these tips out this week and see how it changes the way you feel for the rest of the week. Also, if you’re looking for some general positivity tricks, check out my How To Stay Positive post.

How To Stay Positive

How To Stay Positive

It’s been a difficult week for a lot of people because of the election, and for me personally, it’s been a rough three weeks (unrelated to the election). Despite this, I think I’ve been able to remain relatively happy, so I thought I’d share some of my tips for staying positive through tough times.

Keep track of the good times

I believe it’s not only possible, but also very important, to find at least one positive moment in each day. The last few weeks have taught me that no matter what is going on in the world or in my personal life, there is always something to smile about, whether it be getting to spend time with old friends, or getting a card and cake from my coworkers for my one year anniversary.

Don’t forget to be grateful

Along with paying attention to the positive moments in life, I have also started to keep track of what I am grateful for. Thanksgiving may be a few weeks away, but I think having gratitude for all of the amazing things in my life should be a year-long goal. I’ve started going over each positive moment and what I am grateful for each night before I fall asleep. It really helps put things in perspective when I realize I have so many things to be thankful for, and so many happy memories each day.

Focus on others

Another important trick for staying positive is to get outside of yourself and focus on someone else for a change. This could be in the form of a small act of kindness, giving someone a compliment, or making an effort to ask a friend how they are doing and listening to them before talking about yourself. I have found I feel much happier when I take the time to pay attention to other people’s needs as well as my own.

Treat yourself

I know I just talked about paying attention to others, but I do want to stress how important it is to take care of yourself as well. I’ve been taking the time to do things for me lately, which includes taking nice hot baths when I need a little relaxation, going to yoga and zumba classes, taking walks and hiking, catching up on one of my favorite TV shows, and spending lots of time with friends and family. Whatever it is that makes you happy, be sure to do more of that, especially when you’re feeling particularly down.

 

I hope you found this helpful in some way! I just thought the world could use more good vibes lately. Let me know if you have any other tricks for staying positive, I’d love to hear about them!

 

 

Handling Stress

Handling Stress

This week has been extremely busy and stressful. One of my coworkers that I work closely with is out on “paternity leave” since his wife just had a baby, so I have gotten some added responsibilities while he’s gone. Some of the work was expected, but some was quite unexpected. I’ve honestly been really proud of how I’ve handled the week so far, so I thought I’d use today’s blog to share what I have been doing this week to help control my stress.

Make To-Do Lists

I’ve always been a fan of writing lists, as I mentioned in this blog, and I especially recommend this if you’re having a busy or stressful week. It really helps to have something visual to reference when prioritizing your workload. There isn’t much in this world that’s more satisfying to me than crossing something off a list!

Ask For Help

Asking for help, or asking questions, is something I’ve learned to be better at over the years. I used to be afraid of asking for help, and always wanted to try to figure everything out on my own. However, I’ve definitely learned that it’s better to ask if you’re unsure about something. It’s also not a bad thing to ask for some support on something. For example, with my added responsibilities this week, I’ve had trouble keeping up with my normal everyday work. To remedy this, I started delegating work to our interns. They are always happy to help, and it is such a relief when they’re able to take things off my plate for me.

Think of the Future

I’ve found myself thinking “what would Future Shelly want you to do right now?” a lot this week. For example, I went in early to work yesterday, and stayed late today to knock off some of my to-do’s, simply because I knew I would thank myself later. Since I work a salary job, it’s hard to feel motivated to put in extra hours, as I won’t be paid extra. However, I had a lightbulb moment where I realized it’s better to get things over with today as opposed to putting it off. And I have to say, I think Future Shelly will be quite happy I put in the extra hours.

Make a Playlist

I’m sure I’m not the only person who finds music to be very soothing and therapeutic. I like to write down songs I hear on the radio and then make big Spotify playlists of all the new music I find. This week I’ve enjoyed blasting my playlist “Current Faves” on the way to work, on the way home from work, and even a few times at work. I’m one of those people who doesn’t have a problem with concentrating with music playing, and in fact I find it calms me and helps me focus at times. It also is always sure to put me in a good mood. As a matter of fact, I’m listening to my new playlist right now!

 

I hope you enjoyed reading my secrets to handling stress! Can you relate to any of these? Are there tricks you use to relieve stress that I didn’t mention? Let me know in the comments!

New Job: Tips for Success

Hey everyone! If you saw my Exciting Life Update post you’ll know that I just started my first ever full-time job! I have been working there for three weeks now and I am loving it so far. Going into it I was a little nervous just because I had never worked 40 hours a week before and I wasn’t sure exactly what to expect. But now that I have three weeks under my belt I feel a lot more comfortable, and I figured some of you might benefit from hearing my advice about making the first few weeks of a new job the best they can be! So here are my three tips for success at a new job.

Tip #1: Go above and beyond

I think that when you are new at a job it’s good to always be thinking of extra things you can do to help out. Don’t just settle for doing the bare minimum, think about how you could add to what you’ve been assigned to do in order to make your supervisor’s job easier. Doing this will show your coworkers that you are serious about your job, and prove to them that hiring you was a great decision.

Tip #2: Share your opinions

It’s easy to think that because you’re the newbie you shouldn’t share your thoughts or opinions on things yet, but that is definitely not true. They hired you for a reason, and it’s never too early to share ideas that you have or to be honest about an idea someone else has that maybe you don’t quite agree with. It shows that you’re capable of bringing new perspectives to the table, which is very valuable for any organization.

Tip #3: Stay organized

It can be easy to feel overwhelmed or to forget to do little things when you’re first starting out in a new environment, but overlooking tasks is a big don’t, especially in your first few weeks. To stay on top of everything I like to hand write to-do lists and cross off items when they are complete. Not only does it help me to visualize everything that needs to be done, it also feels oddly rewarding to physically cross something off of a list when you have accomplished it. If you work on a Mac I would also suggest typing in “reminders” on your computer that will send a notification when you need to do something. This is helpful if there are time-sensitive projects you need to finish, or if you are afraid you will forget something a few weeks from now.

 

I hope these tips were helpful to you, whether you are starting out in a new job like me, or just wondering what you should be thinking about when the time comes to start  job. Comment below to let me know your tips for success at a new job!