On Friday I got completely blindsided at work. One of our new clients sent us some feedback, and it was vastly negative. Some of it had to do with the work I have been doing specifically. This curveball was totally unexpected, and honestly kind of ruined my Friday.
I have always been a sensitive person, so taking criticism has predictably never been my strong suit. Although to be fair, is it really anyone’s strong suit? If it’s yours, please teach me your coping mechanisms. I think everyone struggles with handling criticism, because although we are all our own worst critics, hearing it from someone else hurts so much more. Especially when you thought you were doing everything right, and hadn’t gotten any hints or warning signs to make you think otherwise.
This blog is more of a rambling than anything else, but I just thought it might help to get my feelings down on (metaphorical) paper. I’m feeling better about the situation now that a few days have passed, but I definitely still have moments where I feel really down on myself and feel like it is all my fault, even though I know that is not the case.
I’m trying to turn that negative energy around and focus on how I can work even harder to not let something like this happen again. I know that to a certain extent it can’t be completely avoided; I am bound to run into more negative criticism of my work at one point or another throughout my career. I’m not vein enough to think otherwise. However, I do think it is a good learning opportunity and allows me to really think about how I can do my best at everything I undertake from now on.
Have any of you ever experienced something similar? How do you cope with receiving negative feedback or criticism at work, school or in your personal life? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!
For the past few weeks I have been feeling a little down. Some might say I’ve been in a rut. This is due to not being completely happy with certain things in my life, putting a lot of pressure on myself to change them, and also just general feelings of sadness and annoyance that don’t seem to stem from any one thing in particular.
While working out today I had an epiphany of sorts, and I thought I would share it in case any of you are struggling with some of the feelings of doubt and unhappiness that I have been experiencing. My epiphany was that I do not do a good enough job of patting myself on the back for all of the things I am doing right. Instead, I focus on the negatives or what I think I could be doing better. This causes a lot of unnecessary stress and makes me feel upset at myself when I really shouldn’t be feeling that way.
So I came up with an idea which I think is a pretty good one, if I do say so myself. I am going to start acknowledging all of the accomplishments and goals that I have been achieving lately, in an effort to improve my spirits and just have a more positive outlook on life. Positivity is one of my words for having a happier fall, after all! (See ‘Happy Fall!’).
What I’ve Accomplished Lately:
- Over the past few months I have gone from not working out at all (besides the occasional short walk) to getting to the gym at least 4 times a week! I’ve always heard that working out can help make you feel happier and more energized, and I am already seeing how true that is. No matter how down I’m feeling, I always feel better after leaving the gym.
- I went from not blogging in over a year, to publishing five blog posts in the past few months! It is crazy that as I write this, I have 40-something followers already. I know that might not seem like a lot for some of you big-shot bloggers out there, but the thought that 40 people have read my blog and were influenced by it in some way is really awesome to me!
I know I could think of more to be proud of myself for, but those are the two main things that stand out to me as of right now. I already feel better just having acknowledged that I have succeeded in doing something, in changing something about my life in a positive way. Blogging and working out are both activities that make me feel happier, which is really the most important part of any activity.
What makes you happy? What have you been doing right lately that you haven’t given yourself enough credit for? Let me know in the comments, and write your own version of this blog if you think it will help you feel better! It certainly worked for me.
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