In a recent post, I opened up about the difficult parts of being single. I’ve noticed those feelings come in waves. I’ll go weeks or months feeling great, and then suddenly get hit with a wave of sadness. And I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling a little more sad this week due to Valentine’s Day, when other people’s happy relationships are plastered all over social media.
However, there are also many things I love about my relationship status. Instead of complaining about the fact that I’m single, I thought it would be nice to make a more positive post and share what I LOVE about it!
I love the chance to focus on myself
I’ve always been a very selfless person, and I often find myself paying more attention to my partner than myself when I’m in a relationship. Being single gives me a chance to focus all my attention on my own wants and needs. It also allows me to discover new hobbies and interests, and really figure out what I enjoy doing with my free time, without worrying about what my partner wants to do.
I love spending more time with family and friends
One of the things that stresses me out the most when I’m in a relationship, is when I have plans with my boyfriend and I have to turn down spending time with friends or family, or vice versa. Being single has given me the chance to get extra quality time with the people in my life, since I have more free time than I do when I’m in a relationship! My family and friends are the most important part of my life right now, and I’m so happy about that.
I love having one less thing to feel anxious about
Relationships, or even casual dating, can bring up a lot of anxieties for me. I’m a classic over-thinker, and I constantly find myself worrying about little things the person said or did, wondering if he is “the one”, etc. Frankly, I have enough to feel anxious about without an added stress of a relationship. Whenever I hear dating horror stories from friends, or have to give advice about their relationships, I often think, “Man I’m glad I’m single!”
I love being independent
If I want to plan a spontaneous vacation with my friends, or decide to make a big life decision, I can do it without worrying about how it will impact my partner, because I am my own partner. Learning how to be okay being alone, and making decisions for myself, has been such a gift for me. I haven’t had the option of relying on a boyfriend for emotional support, so I’ve been forced to learn how to take care of myself and be my own biggest support system. I think this time alone will make me an even better person in my next relationship, because I’ve learned and grown so much.
Were you single or in a relationship this Valentine’s Day? What do you love about your relationship status? Leave a comment and let me know! <3