The Difference Between Giving Up and Moving On

The past two weeks I’ve been agonizing over one simple decision: whether or not to continue taking my improv class. I completed four levels (each six weeks long), which is definitely much more than I expected to complete.

At some point towards the end of Level Four, I started thinking I might not want to continue to Level Five. I had a few different pros and cons, which I found myself weighing over and over again with the help of my friends, boyfriend and family. (In case you can’t tell, I am a very indecisive person). The gist of the pros is that I enjoy having a hobby that allows me to step outside of my comfort zone while spending time with new friends. The gist of the cons is that I often feel overwhelmed with too much going on each week and it was starting to not be as much fun for me as it was in the earlier levels.

Eventually I came to the conclusion that what I truly wanted was to stop improv, even though I knew I might feel some regret about my decision. I’ve never liked the idea of quitting something, and in a way I felt that stopping before I completed all six levels was a form of quitting. However, I decided that sometimes you have to move on from something, and you don’t have to think of it in such negative terms as ‘giving up’ or ‘quitting.’ Everything in life has an ending, and there’s nothing wrong with choosing to stop doing something if you no longer wish to be doing it.

My friend Heather told me a really great quote the other day, which went something like: “If you’re not saying heck yes to something, you shouldn’t be doing it.” I really liked that because it made me think about what I am saying yes to, and what I should be saying yes to. The fact that I was so unsure about whether or not I wanted to do improv proved that I shouldn’t be doing it anymore, because I was giving it an I guess so at best, rather than a heck yes! 

Saying yes to another level of improv when my heart isn’t fully in it would not do me any good. Instead, I should be spending my time doing things that I know with certainty I want to be doing. I’ve decided that means putting more energy into this blog. Writing blog posts brings me a lot of happiness, and I have been wanting to take it more seriously for a while now. Here’s my chance!

My improv class 

Thanks so much for reading! Let me know in the comments if you have ever struggled with the difference between giving up and moving on, or if you have had any particularly tough decisions to make lately, and how you were able to come to your decision.


11 thoughts on “The Difference Between Giving Up and Moving On

  1. I agree that life is too short and time too precious to spend it engaged in things our hearts are not in. It sounds like you made the best decision for yourself, Shelly. Looking forward to your blog posts.

  2. I think there’s definitely a difference between the two and the line can be blurry sometimes! I have a hard time giving up on things, but I think it’s important to do things that you’re passionate about (like your friend said!) and weed out things that aren’t fulfilling. Thanks for the post. It really made me think about this question!

    1. The line is definitely blurry and it’s really tough for me to decide to stop something. I’m bad at saying no sometimes! But I’m glad you can relate and it has you thinking about the question. Thanks for reading! 🙂

  3. Interestingly I am taking improv too and I agree with you it can get overwhelming with the increase in levels. Stop taking improv does not means you quit, just means that you can delicate more time to the things you have passion about. Sometimes right things is very hard to do and I say kudos for your courage and for making a right choice,

    1. That’s awesome you’re taking it too, and I’m glad you can relate! Thank you! It definitely feels like the right choice even though it was very difficult. I hope you continue to enjoy taking improv!

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