Handling Criticism

On Friday I got completely blindsided at work. One of our new clients sent us some feedback, and it was vastly negative. Some of it had to do with the work I have been doing specifically. This curveball was totally unexpected, and honestly kind of ruined my Friday.

I have always been a sensitive person, so taking criticism has predictably never been my strong suit. Although to be fair, is it really anyone’s strong suit? If it’s yours, please teach me your coping mechanisms. I think everyone struggles with handling criticism, because although we are all our own worst critics, hearing it from someone else hurts so much more. Especially when you thought you were doing everything right, and hadn’t gotten any hints or warning signs to make you think otherwise.

This blog is more of a rambling than anything else, but I just thought it might help to get my feelings down on (metaphorical) paper. I’m feeling better about the situation now that a few days have passed, but I definitely still have moments where I feel really down on myself and feel like it is all my fault, even though I know that is not the case.

I’m trying to turn that negative energy around and focus on how I can work even harder to not let something like this happen again. I know that to a certain extent it can’t be completely avoided; I am bound to run into more negative criticism of my work at one point or another throughout my career. I’m not vein enough to think otherwise. However, I do think it is a good learning opportunity and allows me to really think about how I can do my best at everything I undertake from now on.

Have any of you ever experienced something similar? How do you cope with receiving negative feedback or criticism at work, school or in your personal life? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!

12 thoughts on “Handling Criticism

  1. Whenever I receive criticisms, there are times where I’ll improve myself on the spot…however there are times where I’ll go home, eat all the junks I can get, sleep and when I wake up, the determination to do better begins!:)

  2. There are times where I’ll improve myself on the spot , however there are times where I’ll go home, eat all the junks I can get, sleep, and when I wake up, the determination to do better begins!!

    1. Haha yes I was craving junk food so bad on Friday! But I agree, once you’ve slept on it the determination can begin. Thanks for your comment! 🙂

  3. I love this post. I have a hard time taking criticism. It’s good for me to be aware of! I always take criticism with “a grain of salt.”

  4. This literally just happened to me last week! It wasn’t criticism, but a VERY rude customer that made it difficult for himself to work with us and blamed it/took it out on me. Even though I knew that I did nothing wrong it sucked to be treated that way. Especially when the criticism has nothing to do with you. It took me a few days to realize that. Definitely a good learning experience though for someone as emotional as me!

  5. It would help to know some specifics, such as what aspect of performance the criticism was aimed at, prior experience with this client, and if you can see his viewpoint. It may be an opportunity for you to learn and grow. Or the client may just be a hard to please pain in the ass. Hard to tell from this post.

    1. I kept it a little vague just because I don’t want to put details about my work online, but you’re right it is definitely an opportunity to learn and grow and that is how I am trying to take it! 🙂 Thanks for your comment!

  6. It’s awful when that happens, especially when you have been working hard and putting your all into something and it comes out of nowhere. I tend to get angry and upset and beat myself up for a bit then after a short while I can move on. I might reflect on it at a later date when I am calmer. However if I am in the wrong then I tend to take in, deal with it and seek to improve immediately. Criticism is hard and it definitely depends on how it ia delivered. Chin up.x

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